Good Date Ideas

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For something that’s meant to bring joy and happiness into your life the initial dating scene can be a scary place to be, mainly because of the immense pressure we as men find ourselves under to get it all just right.  With most of the pressure being brought on ourselves by trying to make it the perfect date and the best time that your date has ever had, we very often lose sight of what really matters…. spending quality time with somebody that already or has the potential to be a special person in your life.
Good date ideas or what we perceive to be good date ideas can often be well off the mark and the biggest culprit of this is the trying far too hard approach.  You must not forget that it’s all about having fun, sharing new experiences and really getting to know your date better.
OK so you’ve now had that good first date with most of your first date questions having been answered, you now pile the pressure back on yourself to make the next date even better.  This is really the wrong approach to have because it would be impossible to make each date better than the last, you are just setting yourself up for a big fall that way.  The way to approach this is that each date is going to be different and no matter what you do your going to enjoy it and try to get the most out of your time together, don’t forget with the right person the simplest of things can be the most romantic.
Good date ideas also should not be confined to the classic meal for two, why not take a horse-riding session with a romantic picnic afterwards or pick a clear night and star gaze with a nice bottle of wine to share.  All of these fun date ideas show that it’s the person your with that is the most important aspect to you and not just doing things because historically it’s the next thing to do on the dating list.

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Whilst we would all like money to be no object when thinking up good date ideas the fact is going to the most expensive restaurant isn’t always an option.  The good thing is though is with a little planning and creativity the cost of your date can be as little or as much as you like.  Don’t get me wrong in this day and age we really do pay for quality so it can impress your date by going to the fancy restaurants and ordering the lobster with some champagne.  On the flip side though a romantic picnic a the park complete with food that you’ve made yourself and a relatively cheap bottle of wine can still make a great impression on your date.
    Good date ideas really do come down to the individual and also trying to get a sense of the kind of person your date is as to the kinds of things they’d really enjoy.  People often say if your go out with a girl from a wealthy family she’d expect you to take her some place nice and for money to not be an issue.  Whilst this can be the case more often that not its more about the effort you put into creating an amazing date than simply the cost.  Equally, going on a date with someone who’s background isn’t wealthy doesn’t mean that a $300 candle lit meal makes you the king of the castle.
    A good first date can involve as little as heading down to the beach or park and just spending time together.  Over the last year a friend of mine used his head a little when it came to dating, saving money and learning a new skill.  Throughout the year he went on five dates with different women and on each first date he took them to free salsa lessons at the same local bar.  Whilst only one of the dates became long term, through plenty of practice he now dances a pretty mean salsa.  

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So your feeling pretty confident and excited as you've got a date tomorrow night, and this could turn out to be the woman of your dreams.  Then having bought the new shirt and had the long overdue haircut, you start trying to think of some really good date ideas that would both impress and not break the bank. 

Then as if by magic, the message hits your phone saying “I'm really looking forward to tomorrow night, whats the plan, and what time are you picking me up?

Cue the nerves and total brain freeze….Where to go? What to do? What would make a good first date ?

Being quite a nervous guy around women, when it came to thinking up good date ideas I'd always found myself panicking and reaching for the old classics of either a movie or a restaurant.

Whilst these ideas are ok, they're not very creative, especially the movie idea for a first date, as really you'll both just be sitting in silence for 2-3 hours.

The best date night ideas take into account that everyones taste is different, whether it be an active, romantic or very casual date, like just meeting for coffee.  The key for me was using a bit of imagination in my date ideas, but this can be difficult as if we're feeling nervous we generally choose the safety net of a crowded bar or restaurant.  By choosing something a bit different though, you let your date know that you aren't the same as all the other guys and you've got more to offer.

The best lesson I've learned is to keep things fun and relaxed, especially on a first date.  The more casual and relaxed it feels the more you'll both just enjoy getting to know each, removing any date nerves. Laughing together is a great ice breaker so finding Comedy nights or bar theme nights will keep you both being entertained and its a great start to the night. Then by moving venues and maybe walking somewhere nearby, this adds variety to the date and makes you connect more as your arriving somewhere different 'together'.  

Not having the charisma and confidence to take the night as it comes, I like to plan a few places to go in advance that are nearby, so during the night you can spontanoeusly suggest trying somewhere new. By keeping the thinking on the night to a minimum, you leave yourself free to just have fun, and I think this really comes across. By doing this small amount of planning your night will have a more exciting sense of adventure to it, and your date will feel secure as your taking control.

With a few good date ideas planned for the night, the next question is “What do we talk about on the date”.

Making conversation and those first date questions can prove difficult as even if things are going well, every now and again in creeps the dreaded…Awkward silence….

One method of getting over this is by just making a joke of it, if you both go quiet, just try saying “Do you beleive in awkward silences”.

I've found this gets a laugh and a smile more often than not, then after that everytime it goes quiet, you'll both just laugh.

Keeping the conversation fun and not too serious definitely helps keep things flowing,  try talking about some embarressing moments (minor ones) and asking light hearted questions, these can spark some really great conversations.

Please be aware though that whilst jokes can be great icebreakers they can also backfire on you when not timed very well. A friend of mine learned this the hard way, when a recent date lasted a matter of seconds, as upon meeting he jokingly reached in his pocket and said:  

“Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?”

I guess the lesson from this is to check your date has a great sense of humor first, and even then maybe wait until the second date.

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